THE MOST POPULAR BLOG TOPIC - VIRTUAL AFFAIR

I have blogged more than one year and during that time I wrote about many different issues. Since I am a lawyer my posts are based on cases I receive or heard about. One of the most read topics is 

VIRTUAL AFFAIR - IS IT JUST A FLIRT OR SOMETHING MORE?

I cannot lie that I asked myself why people read it more than, for example posts about friendship or superstitious. During my research I found that every second person knows somebody who had virtual affair and every fourth person actually had a virtual affair. My target group were men and adult females between 18 and 50 years old in a relationship or married. 

While I was researching, I thought why this occurred?
The Internet and social networks gave many chances, but also made disaffect people from each other. 

I agree that is seems easier to find your soul mate over a social network, you make a few clicks, check profile, text a little and love can start, but is it really that easy? 

As I wrote in my blog, social networks gave us an opportunity to show ourselves just as we like to be and not as we really are.

For instance, how many people among your social network's friends are photographers, as I know every third, but are they really photographers? Well, they bought a camera, but that does not make them photographers. 
Same is with relationship status, many of our social network's friends are married in real life, but they express that they are single or simply hide that. 

A few months earlier, before I wrote about virtual affair, thanks to my colleague (if I can say thanks, yes, she had virtual affair) I had chance to text with a man who made a fake profile for seducing women. I was surprised that he accepted to text with me about the reasons why he created a fake profile and  experienced many of his virtual affairs. 
He was in his middle 30, relative successful, married with kid and pregnant wife. He made his fake profile in his early twenties only for one purpose - seduction women. His photos were real, everything else was fake: name, country, age, status, education. 
On my question why he did all that he explained to me that he felt again as a man, seducer, he had power over those women and was no harm for his family. His wife never caught him in those affairs, all messaging, chatting was during his work. 

I asked him how would he feel if his wife do that the same with some man and he explained that he will divorce. 
"Cheating is cheating, no matter is it real or virtual" he said. 
Even  I had despised him in this I had to agree.

Long after I text with him I thought about those women who were his target, they were young and old, married and single, BUT they all needed attention, they totally needed to be loved.
Yes Internet gave us a chance to visit Peru but also change our perception of love and romance. When I watch old movies I see men who give flowers and candies to the woman they love, write letters and sing poems under her windows. 

Do I know a woman, which husband or boyfriend did or do that? Unfortunately, the answer is no. 

Emoticons, messages, songs from YouTube can not replace real courtship, but people believe that is the same. 
Virtual affairs exist, and I think it will be more. 
Can we stop them? No. Can we accept them? Well, I do not know for you but for me affair is affair and I can never accept that. 

At this moment while I write this post somebody read about virtual affair, searching for excuses, thinking "mine affair is different, he/she really love me" in this moment, men from my text is speaking with some women telling her that she is the most beautiful women he ever saw, in this moment some woman will believe him. 

Are they happy? 
They think they are, but deep at heart they are just searching for real love...

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STOP VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN - WHEN LOVE BECOMES HELL

Each love starts as big, wonderful, for women especially, they are more romantic, so when they found the love they discover him as a love evermore. By the time first impression start to fade, a prince from fantasy starts to be a human being, with all mistakes as the rest and sometimes even more.

Bullies do not set out to be suddenly like that, they begin first with small jealous incidents. At the beginning of the relationship, it can be even cute, but by the time the jealousy becomes bigger. 

Violence against the women do not need to be only physical, psychical torture can be also painful. Usually, we ask ourselves why some women accept and tolerate violence. The reason that these women accept torture by the fact that they are usually dependent of these men is that they strongly believe that they will change.

After every insult or hit in the weak woman's body, they blame their victims for that, they put the blame on the victim, slowly ruin her self-confidence. For a while bullies will be even nicer to their victims, they will promise that this was the last time. By the time, bullies will separate their victims from their friends, families so even when victims start to think about leaving them as they will think that the world outside is worse than their own. Women with lost self-confidence, who do not trust in herself at all, will never leave their abuser.

Women must understand when a man one time hit or bad insult her, he will do that again. There is no sitting and crying, this kind of man must be left with no turning back. 

Each of these bullies will say that he cannot live without his woman, but the only reason why is that true is that the abuser need to blame somebody for their failure as a man and to feel powerful on the other side.

Violence against women exist from beginning of our time, do not torture your woman, the real man does not do that, the real man respects and love his woman. If any of you know some woman who suffers violence in this moment, do not turn your head, help her to leave and save her life. Do not let yourself become the victim, there is so many nice, gentlemen in this world and we have only one life.

In last five years, 150 women was killed in Serbia, in first two months this year 5 women was killed in the family violence. Stop violence against women.

This text is written by Marijana Ignjatović any copyrighting are not permitted

SINGLE MEN IN SERBIA - CAN THIS ENDEMIC SPECIES SURVIVE :D ?

In Serbia, for many people an exotic country where everybody is talking about the great courage of Serbian men and where women make more population, men start to be an uncommon species, safely grouped into four groups, firmly determined not to yield to the demands of their families about marriage. 
Well at least they try :)

Group number 1.   (She became pregnant)

In this group the representative sample gets married simply because his girlfriend became accidentally pregnant. 
Like any gentleman he will get married or her male members of the family will smooth convinced him to make his decision. That discussion is usually easy and very constructive, male family members will remind him that life is short, sometimes dangerous, you never know what tomorrow will bring to you, so be smart man and get marry. 
That kind of wedding is fast and marriage last almost as wedding. After a few months, or in the best way one or two years of cheating on each other, they will get divorced.

Group number 2.   (I need foreign wife)

Second type of man is brave and opened one for new experiences - at the end it is a new age. 
He decided not to choose any woman from Serbian, he will be more imaginative, all these women in the world waiting for this exotic, rough Balkan man. He decide to go to the agency and try to find a woman from another country. They must be better right, at least she will not understand him at all so he can talk and talk as he wants and he will get a smile after. It's every man's dream! After a few days, the agency will call him and send him photographs of few women. He will choose one of them and next is to see and marry her next day after first viewing. 
They didn't even look at each other decently, so what? There is no time for slow thinking if he doesn't want her somebody else will. The whole life is in front of them, they can watch each other next few decades.

Group number 3   (I want them all)

The representative of the third group is very specific. He wants Serbian girls, but he still didn't decide which one so he realized that would be safe to go on dates with as many different girls as he can. Blonde, brunette, red, slim, fat, old, young, he is not picky he just must realize which he desires. At the end marriage is saint stuff. After a while he will throw one, then the other, until only one stays and we got a winner ... or not. 
Hm, maybe he needs to try with few more? :)

There is another kind of man, an endangered species with extinction, the greatest problem for his family, the man who decided to be very careful, not be tricked with baby, not be rushing to marry someone he never saw before, not to be down-home and sleep with any woman he saw, the man who will not make mistakes like the other three groups of man, the man who will fight for his rights until the end.

Group 4   (My mom is seeking my future wife)

Since staying single man, beside driving a small car  is the greatest mistake in one man's life, the family will begin to search for the woman for him. When I say a family, then I think about a female's members of them, they will be sent on a mission to discover a proper woman for this misguided man.

In a country, where cinema, theatre, museum barely exists in a few cities,  the main place for gathering people is a “slava”.

"Slava" is something that only Serbian people have, simply each family chooses one saint to be family protector and then they celebrated that saint. The point is to gather as many people as they can and to celebrate as many days as they can, even if that means that the next few months they will live in totally poorness.
In these few days of a celebration, woman of the house will be notified to get together single men and women. A single man will be taught if he does not know by far that he must eat and drinks a lot, he will show his future wife that he is a truly rough Balkan man, who will put his hand on the table if he is not satisfied with her behavior. Being polite is not so interesting, if he wants to drink juice and eat vegetables he can stay at home, read books and play with his pet.

In the case that in "slava" nothing happened, one more event is also very popular at Serbian people.This event is so popular that people go even if they don’t know who is  the master of ceremonies.  It is a funeral, yes you read it well. 

At funerals you can hear lately gossips, mothers and grandparents can complain on their children and grandchildren and this is a very good place to decide to connect their single kids.Oh, what a joy, ha?

The plan must be very clever, after the funeral mom can’t just come home and say," oh, I found you a wife", no, there is a strategy. She will come at home clearly shaken and when the son comes to ask her is she OK, she will say something like this" my spirit will stop too, soon, very soon, I only wish to see my grandchildren". After son says, "I want too mama", while she wipes, non-existent tears she will give him a piece of paper with the mobile number of his future wife. 
He must call her immediately, of course she will probably ask him how he found her phone number, but that is his problem. If he wants to please his mom, he will go out with her and be a real gentleman, but if he still wants to stay alone after few date he can tell his mom that his future wife called him "a wussy".

Some of these endemic species sometimes suddenly decide that is enough of being single man, it is over. Maybe his girlfriend is not smart, maybe she is not pretty, but who cares, family is family and he needs one. 
There is just one tiny problem, if our future husband doesn't work and still live with his parents, which is starting to be usual in this country, where he will live with his wife? 
In parents' house? Ahem, yes.
After a few months it is mom or wife, bye, bye wife, mom wins. 

Get ready mom you need a new daughter- in- law! 

;)