VIRTUAL AFFAIR - IS IT JUST A FLIRT OR SOMETHING MORE?

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"I love you, don't you get it?

Everything was a lie, you don’t love me.

Let me explain you, I don't love her, she is just a nanny for our children ...

How could you lie to me, how could you cheat your wife?!

I don't have hopes for us anymore, sorry ..."

Mostly about virtual relationship's ends as this. Virtual lovers breaks up when someone figures out who is a virtual lover in real life, usually married women and men, unsatisfied with their private life using profiles on social networks to live their life again, to change him in their minds.

They  begin to confuse real and virtual life fall in love for real, convince themselves that virtual life is better, get more attention. It is exciting, can discuss with everything, will not put bond as in real life, as with real life partner.

After the end of virtual affairs, virtual lovers can't harmonize with themselves that is over that they are in real life again, perfect love is no more in front of the screen.

They actually suffer, convince themselves that they are victims in this relationship, try to find another love, better with more understanding, and circle never ends.

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Virtual affair is fantasy, usually story that ends with bad end for at least one main character in this story, and do not forget that this story have at least three or even four main characters.

After one virtual affair starts, then as time goes by it is hard to finish it. Perfect lover with romantic love, picture of roses on the bed, love poem in the messages , smile on the screen ... But that is just imagination far away from the real thing.

Someone will say now, virtual affair is not affair it is fun, flirt, no damage for marriage, nothing special, let us see now ... If somebody has a family, life partner, kids maybe, and that person spent hours talking with somebody else instead with real partner, touching the screen, get naked and having sex during the time the other side on the screen doing the same thing, is it flirt or affair?

Yes sorry, it is affair by itself.

If somebody spends almost every day talking, seeing, touching over the screen somebody, having jealous moments when other side talk with somebody else and not thinking during that time at all about the family, it is an affair.

That affair is even worse than real, it can last longer, there is curious how it would like in real, virtual lover is more interesting, perfect, the sex is even better as you just can imagine.

The virtual affair becomes more fun, more exacting, once it starts for those who emotionally cheating, it is going to be as an addiction, more and more hours talking, doing things that they can't say or do with their husband/wife.

Once when virtual lovers emotionally cheat he/she will feel the need to meet that person one day in real, and make it real.

Those who think that is nothing wrong should sit and think, put yourself in a place, not a place of a virtual lover put yourself in a place of husband/wife of that person, is it OK  now, how do you feel?

Virtual affair can damage marriage as much  the real one can.

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For real life partners of virtual cheaters knowing that their husband/wife was spending hours, days, even months talking, laughing, having sex, sending naked pictures to any other man/woman can be tremendous.

For them there are no difference between virtual and real cheating, in their mind their love didn't think of them, somebody else was or is more important, they are not good enough anymore, they are on the second place now.

One more side gets here hurt, the side that didn't fake that was clean, didn't lie, didn't cheat, the side that expects all of that from the other side too, side that never dreamed her lover was a fake.

How much they get hurt after they realize that their perfect partner is a fake, have family that all was a lie, and how that result in their future love life?

At least end of this kind of love affairs should be edifying for every side, virtual cheaters who should ask themselves why they are not happy with real partners, their partners in real life should begin to work on relationship before it ends with divorce, and finally for the other side over the screen that should be more careful next time if she/he wants to try love over the Internet again.


"Go, leave me here with my life, you never loved me.

You are right, I don't think I ever really loved you. I think I was in love with an idea of you ... "

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SINGLE LADIES

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"All the single ladies, now put your hands up"...

OK we put our hands up, and when the song ends, then what?

Play it again?

In the new age we try so badly to have great jobs, career, house, car, we are constantly in some rush, but when we turn back we realize that we forgot one important thing - 
TO FIND GREAT LIFE PARTNER TOO!

It is not a secret that in that rush we don't pay attention, who really our partners are, so when we have time to look closely we start to be unsatisfied and after time single again.

"You are not single you are free" said my friend, and I couldn't say to him that is a lie, in my last relationship I felt like I was caught in the cage.

I spent my whole day at the work and that free time I had I was with my ex-boyfriend. I didn't realize that I was not happy enough, I needed someone to hug me after busy and hard day, I needed someone to listen me ... And ... And,   that was all. Everything else is other story.

Wasn't happy but, I was afraid to be alone again, then one day I finally decided, it is over, we both failed in this relationship.

Now I can say it is better to be alone then alone with somebody.

Sometimes giving up from relationship doesn't mean you are weak, sometimes it means that you finally got the courage to move on, to take your life again in your hands.

It is hard to be single, the first couple of days you don't know what to do with yourself, you can do anything you want, but you start to think that with your ex-partner would be more fun, you still make dinner for two, you still think like you are two still together...

Then you realize that you are alone, you start to check email, your messages hoping that you will discover that he still thinks of you ...

Eventually you realize that your life was back to the start where you were before him, but with one small difference-you learn something, you learn from your mistakes.

Life teaches us, each person in our life is a new lesson, our ex-partner is important lesson too.

So if we had learned anything from our ex-partner is that we shouldn't make the same mistakes again.

I read that each of us will choose person similar to ourselves in a life partner, so if we don't find that person does it mean that we are unique :)?

Probably not, I think that means that we didn't look enough, if we have enough strength and will to sacrifice the best of us in our career, we must give the best of us to find our perfect partner too.

And when we find him, well then we can sing:

"Put me into your arms, say I'm the one you want,

  If you don't, you will be alone,

 And like a ghost I'll be gone"

... Or we should hug him and say -THANKS GOD I FINALLY FOUND YOU!

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SINGLE LADIES - THERE IS SOMEONE SPECIAL FOR YOU OR, YOUR FAMILY WILL FIND HIM :D

"Oh dear, I didn't see you a couple of weeks, how are you, did you marry ?"

"Ahem, no"

"What?!!! 

You are not young Missy, what are you waiting for?"

                            "My bus".

To be a single lady in Serbia is like you have horns in the middle of your head, you are rare species that many of the older women will kill, bring home and put your head on the wall of their living room as a representative for their unmarried daughters.

In Serbia marriage is very important, you can be bad, without education, shame for community, but you must be married untill your 25 birth.

When you came to kindergarten first thing that your relatives will ask you is "do you have a boyfriend?"

Of course I have, just can't decide do I like more that who pee in his pants or that who cries every time his mom left him.

Then in Primary school every of your male friend is suspected. If you two are in your room your granny will suddenly come to clean the dust and your grandpa will sit between you and him to read his newspaper. They must know his intentions with you.

Secondary school. Well we are now on serious terrain, your boyfriend is already called “son in law”.
On family reunion you must say his name, date of birth, where he lives, who are his grandparents, relatives, what his parent do, what car they drive, and of course you must show him to everybody .

You can try with excuses that he is sick, but then when you two break up some of your aunts will tell you" Thx god, we started to worry, he is constantly ill, may not survive his thirtieth."

At the college after how are you, the second question is do you have serious relationship, you are now an adult problem for your family.

At this family reunion that is every time you came home, you get investigated, do you have any relationship, is it serious, if you don't have, why is that, what is wrong with you, are you a lesbian?

Your relatives now have a mission, you will not embarrass them, they will find you a decent husband!

If we are still in stone age they would take cudgels and hit on the head every man they saw , throw him in the room with you, and bring the priest, but since they can't do that they show your photo every time they saw a single man.

Of course since on each of your photos you have mini skirt, or drink in your hand, which is for your relatives very impropriate, photo of you which your relatives show, took your aunt when you didn't look, so or you have tousled hair, or you were looking somewhere like nutcase, or you were happily cleaning your teeth after aunt's dinner.

Suddenly you are invited to every wedding, even for a wedding of relatives you never saw before. You never knew even in your dream how many relatives you have, all so worried about your married career, and what is the most important "lucky" for you each of them know some single man.

At the weddings every bride will be appraised to throw the bouquet to you, for luck of course and that single guys can see that you are single too.

You will sit at the table with them just in the case they didn't see that you had caught the bouquet or if there were more single woman like you.

On every two minutes some of your relatives will hit some of that poor single men on the back with the questions " you like her, ha?"

The photographer will take a photo with each of those guys and give them to their mothers so they can visualize how you two are a beautiful couple.

That is how it looks until you are 25, then ... Well then you wait for your bus ... And ...

And maybe one day in that bus will be your future husband, or your relatives will put him there "YOU LIKE HER, HA?"...

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